It is not touching that ignites romantic tension, but the
concept of holding back. If you sit beside somebody that literally makes your
stomach swoop, tingles run up your spine and prick bumps on your skin, it is
the closeness without touching that really makes your heart pound. As the beat
drums in your ears and your blood courses through your veins, your cheeks tinge
red and your breath catches in your throat, you long to reach out… you long to
touch… but you don’t. And in that moment everything plateaus and you just want
to scream, or turn around, grab his face and just pounce on him. I can only
imagine how those dances in the Victorian era used to make people feel… hands a
few centimetres apart, fingertips drifting closer together…
In this day and age romance seems to be lost. I feel people
see romance as buying gifts or playing slow jam music, but in reality everybody
rushes through relationships so quickly that romance can’t be possible. To
‘French Kiss’ on the first date is not romantic, and it often isn’t even
passionate or lustful it’s just messy and awkward. To hold hands or for fingers
to brush together, or for fingertips to trace little movements into the other
persons hand or even leg (if you want to be really forward) is real romance.
The kiss should be slow, it should be gradual and you should build towards it.
It should be hesitant. Tingles and Goosebumps and butterflies should all be
firing up.
I feel like the art of wooing has been lost in the rush for
sex and passion, but really passion comes with the romance. Or at least that is
how it should be in my opinion. I don’t believe in the ‘no sex before marriage’
unless that is how you want it to be, each to their own, and I think people can
be as kinky and lustful as they desire, I mean sex and passion and lust are
important, but getting to that point in a relationship should be just as
enthralling.
Maybe my opinion is one of a girl who loves romantic films
and romantic fiction, even a dash of poetry, and I have definitely filled my
head with songs that ooze emotion and feeling. Maybe I am wrong in feeling that
romance is a little lost, but let me make it clear that I definitely don’t
believe romance is dead. True love, chemistry and real connections are out
there and they are desperate to be made. Little tingles from merely looking at
the person you are into does still happen. Hearts racing and pounding against
rib cages are still a thing when your man touches you, his fingers brushing
against your or lightly pulling at your clothes because he wants you close.
Just look at Tom Hiddleston, or just look at this link I am posting here: http://www.buzzfeed.com/ellievhall/15-convincing-reasons-tom-hiddleston-is-an-actual-disney-pri.
He just (from how the media portrays him) embodies modern day romance and true
love. He is a Disney prince. And he isn’t the lone prince in the world.
So anyway, I am going to stop here before I roll onto the
topic of saying you love somebody because I could go on for days about the ‘love’
thing… and I’d rather bore you on that in a separate blog post sometime soon…
